Go on, spoil yourself …
The cards have been on the shelves for months and the gift guides have been floating around the internet for even longer, with an abundance of suggestions for what to buy your ‘other half’ for Valentine’s Day. But by definition, it’s a celebration of love – and that love doesn’t necessarily have to be directed towards someone else. For once, why not focus on yourself?
Regardless of how confident some people appear to be from the outside, we all have our own internal battles. We’re critical, unfair and often unkind to ourselves, piling on unnecessary pressure and setting standards at staggering heights. We curse, we blame, we punish – all because we think we could be better when actually, in our own unique little ways, we’re pretty damn perfect as we are. We’re not designed to consistently be on our best behaviour, to stick to the rules or to please everyone all the time. We’re meant to be free, with the decisions we make and the actions we take. So as I type this, I’m encouraging you to be a bit kinder to yourself – if only for today.
Treat yourself; to that huge glazed doughnut covered in sprinkles from your local bakery, or that bag that you just haven’t been able to justify, to lunch in your favourite restaurant or to just 10 peaceful minutes reading outdoors. I urge you to ask yourself what would make you really, truly happy – if only temporarily – and to just do it. Perhaps you think it’s superficial of me to pose with a pair of expensive shoes and suggest that you treat yourself. Perhaps you think it’s materialistic, or even ridiculous. But as I mentioned briefly in this post, I attach a significant amount of symbolism to these material possessions that you might call ridiculous. To me, they serve as little reminders.
Karen Millen is one of my all-time favourite brands and has been for a good many years now, long before I was old enough to carry such sophisticated designs on my little shoulders. So these beautiful red court shoes, with cut-out detail and fringing on the heel, are a reminder that I’ve grown from a little girl with longing for the immediate satisfaction of owning such gorgeous clothes and accessories to a young woman with longing for the sense of worth that must be present before I make the purchase. I want and need to feel worthy and deserving in order to treat myself. And this year, having worked so hard for so long, I very much feel like I’m in a relationship with my job, with no room for a real Valentine (or perhaps I’m just telling myself that because I have yet to find Mr Right). So instead, I’m treating myself. And in my eyes, these red court shoes are quite the treat.
Whatever your plans are, I hope you have a wonderful day. Love and be loved. Look past the commercialism if you need to, define the day in your own special way. But just remember to show yourself a little love, you’re the only one that you’re committed to indefinitely until your very last day. So make the relationship count.
Happy Valentine’s Day you lovely lot.
This post is in collaboration with Karen Millen but love of the brand and Valentine’s-induced soppiness very much my own.