Following the success of last week’s productivity post (have a look here here if you missed it), I thought I’d centre another article around wellbeing. I’ll never be an agony aunt and I’ll definitely never make it as a life coach but I’ve got this space to write and to share and judging by my through-the-roof-stats lately (always a very pleasant surprise), you quite enjoyed a more personal lifestyle post. I’m no expert but I’d like to think we can all learn from each other, having experienced different things and our own ways of dealing with them.
So right now, I want to talk about happiness – a central part of life’s enjoyment and the key to making the most of every single moment, both good and bad. Some of you will know that I’ve had a bit of a rollercoaster with this emotion over the years and at times, have felt like feeling truly happy was almost impossible. During a recent slump, my Mum bought me this beautiful notebook and it inspired me to share a few different positive thoughts that we can actively encourage ourselves to generate in order to combat negativity.
I will not compare myself to others
… or at least, I will do it less. We’re all human, we all take a look around occasionally and think I’d love to look like her, I wish I could do that or I want that life. In the presence of a world consumed by social media (which is absolutely not a bad thing most of the time), these thoughts – often recurring – are without question more prevalent now as we live stream what’s going on in each other’s lives; where we’re travelling to, what we’re eating, what we’re buying and how we’re spending our days. So of course it’s natural to compare. But it’s not always healthy – particularly when it comes to our own self-fulfilment and happiness. And honestly? The grass isn’t always greener on the other side. Remember that people only publish and share what they want you to see, an edited version of their lives. So with that in mind, concentrate solely on yourself. Focus on your own goals, your own progress and your own experiences. Focus on making the most out of your life.
If I can believe it, I can achieve it
How many times have you told yourself you can’t do something over the last month? I’ve probably said it to myself a handful of times, all on occasions where actually, it most likely wasn’t true. And we’re all guilty of it. But telling yourself that you can’t do it (whatever ‘it’ may be) will reinforce your physical incapability of actually doing it. Your mind has power over your body and your behaviour, so it’s important to believe in yourself in order to reach your goals and overcome the obstacles you’ve mentally created. Believe you can and you will.
I choose to put myself first
Sometimes, just sometimes, it’s important (almost imperative) to be selfish. To be truly happy, you need to identify what steps you need to take in order to feel good. Whether that’s distancing yourself from negative people, setting your alarm early to watch the sun rise or watching an episode of your favourite TV series – make time for it and do it. It’s in our nature to identify negativity; in people, in environments and in activities that make us unhappy. Acknowledging this and choosing to distance ourselves from it is what will make us happier in the long term. Life is far too short to “put up with” or “make do”. But it’s down to you to make those active changes.
I’m going to be the best version of me
Sometimes, wholely unintentionally, I scare myself by thinking about life; how short it really is, the fact that we only get ‘one shot’, one chance to be whoever we want to be. So ask yourself, who do you want to be? What do you want to achieve in 5 years, 10, by retirement? What can you do to improve yourself – in relationships, in your work life and your wellbeing? Nobody is perfect, even though they might appear to be from the outside. Everybody has something they can improve on or change for the better. Understanding what those changes are and how they can be made makes us stronger, more intelligent beings – working towards our ‘ultimate selves’. All we can do is be the best we can be, that’s all anybody can ask of us – and all we can ask of ourselves. Adopt this mindset and you’ll start to notice your own behavioural changes, often without consciously thinking about them.
Think happy. Be happy.
Love, Beth xo.