Top*: InTheStyle (use code BETH10 for 10% off sitewide), Trousers: Next, Shoes: Missguided, Bag: Michael Kors (no longer available, alternative colours here and here or similar style here), Belt: Ted Baker (men’s), Watch*: Olivia Burton, Earrings: ASOS, Necklace*: Astrid & Miyu
I like sharing; stories, experiences, feelings – anything but food (you’ve got to be pretty damn special for me to do that). Because sharing helps us to connect, whether it be with people we’ve just met or people we’ve known for a long time that we want to become closer to. That disclosing of how you feel or what you’ve experienced can allow you to find common ground or start a discussion – it’s the basis of effective communication. But then there’s oversharing – when perhaps too much is divulged in circumstances where it’s not appropriate. And when it comes to social media, just how much is too much?
Once upon a time, long before my internet career, I discovered Twitter. Immediately, it became like an online journal; I would sporadically tweet my thoughts, feelings and experiences quite literally as they happened, everything from details of my relationship (not wise) to those dramatic indirects following an argument with a close friend. It was a quick release, a way for me to get something off my chest without actually talking to someone and actually, a way for me to avoid addressing the issue/person involved IRL. I look back now and cringe but I also realise that everyone was doing it, to an extent.
Then Instagram: stories told in photos. From blurry snaps taken on a night out, to that meal your other half just cooked for you, to the changing room selfie with the perfect lighting, people began sharing the minute details of their lives in visual form, edited only with the app’s own filters (Valencia and Hudson were personal favourites).
And now, years later, using these social apps is part of my job. They are tools in my trade, factors in my success and platforms for me to grow. And it’s the same for hundreds of thousands, possibly millions of others. So now, I have to think about what I say and what I post. Don’t get me wrong, I tweet impulsively a lot. And snapchat? #nofilter (well almost, the airbrush filter quickly became my best friend). But the content is unfiltered. It’s me, going about my day, taking you along with me. But my point is that the ways in which I use these apps has changed. I’m still honest, with everything that I post online but I’m just a little more private – because when so much is laid bare for the world to see, it’s important to keep little things to yourself. Whether that’s your relationship status or an ‘offline’ holiday, some things can feel too special to share. Or not. But that decision is yours.
The boundaries can be blurred and I’m still yet to fully establish mine, I think they change on an almost-daily basis. But that’s okay, we as people change almost daily. That’s life – nothing stays the same forever.
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