Have you ever laid in bed at night worrying that you’re not doing enough? Have you ever felt frustrated because you’re not seeing results or reaping rewards as quickly as you would like? Of course you have, we all have. And though it’s natural, it’s not healthy – not for you or for others.
‘But without the dark, we’d never see the stars.’
I wholeheartedly believe that everything happens for a reason. A setback, being knocked down, not getting what you want or what you feel you deserve – these things happen because they’re meant to, because they’re teaching you valuable lessons that you need to learn in order to live a happy and fulfilled life. At the time, it can feel like your world has come crashing down. It feels unfair and unjustified. You despair, you might cry or curse. But further down the line, something wonderful will happen and though it might not be directly related to your downfall, it’s likely to be a result of how you dealt with a past situation, an active move you made to improve yourself or your life.
‘I am learning to trust the journey even when I do not understand it.’
It’s no secret that comparison is the thief of joy. Looking at the lives of others can cause you to criticise and pick apart your own. It’s healthy to aspire and be inspired but not so healthy to feel jealous of or inferior to someone else. Focus on your own journey; are you working hard to get where you want to be? Are you hitting targets and smashing goals? If you know that you’re putting in the hours, trying even when it feels like you’re not succeeding, you’re doing your best. And that’s all you can do. So trust the process. Trust that every minute you spend working is valuable to your future self, trust that the long days and the long nights will pay off and that your commitment to your goals and to your dream will eventually get you to where you want to be. And I know it’s not easy. But have a little faith. It’s about the journey, not the destination.
Here are a handful of my favourite quotes to help keep me grounded:
‘Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck.’
‘Let go of the need to control the outcome, it’s okay to not have the answer yet.’
‘Create the highest, grandest vision possible for your life, because you become what you believe.’
‘Doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment.’
‘Your setback is the platform for your comeback.’
And something my Mum has reminded me of repeatedly over the years: ‘Rome wasn’t built in a day.’